The Marriage Clinic

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Gottman, John M. 저자(글)

W. W. Norton & Company · 1999년 08월 17일

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The Marriage Clinic presents a complete marital therapy program based on John Gottman's much heralded research on marital success and failure. Here one will find not only a wide range of succinct and useful assessment procedures, but also a highly specific, research-based, and modularized treatment program. In addition, there are dozens of questionnaires and interview protocols to be used in both assessment and intervention.In prospective, long-term research with over 700 couples, Gottman has discovered certain factors that distinguish happy, stable couples from both unstable, ultimately divorcing couples and stable but unhappy couples. These findings, which are explained here in understandable, nontechnical language, form the basis of his Sound Marital House theory of marriage, which guides the new therapy. This therapy has two goals: changing the marital friendship and teaching couples to regulate conflict.Despite the high aims of much marital therapy, Gottman found that most marital conflicts involve fundamentally unresolvable relationship issues called "perpetual problems." He shows how therapists can help spouses move from gridlock to dialogue on these issues. Solvable problems can be resolved more easily when the couple has a strong marital friendship. He gives therapists the tools to teach spouses five fundamental skills to develop and strengthen their friendship: softened start-up, accepting influence, repair and de-escalation, compromise, and physiological soothing.Gottman compares his clinic to a restaurant, where clients are offered a menu of treatment formats, from psychoeducation for specific issues to extended therapy to repair a badly damaged marital friendship. Therapists, too, can choose among the questionnaires and strategies for those that fit the needs of particular couples. Whatever their choice, they will find that their practice is greatly enriched by the scientifically-based offerings of The Marriage Clinic.

작가정보

저자(글) Gottman, John M.

John M. Gottman, Ph.D., is William Mifflin Professor of Psychology at the University of Washington in Seattle. He is the author of over two dozen books, including Seven Principles to Making Marriage Work, The Heart of Parenting (with J. DeClaire), When Men Batter Women (with Neil Jacobson), Why Marriages Succeed or Fail, The Marriage Clinic, and The Science of Trust.

목차

• Part I RESEARCH AND THEORY 1 (110)
  Myths and Mistakes of Marital Therapy 3 (28)
  Marital Therapy Effects: Little or Nothing 4 (2)
  with High Relapse
  Giving Science a Chance 6 (2)
  Dispelling Myths and Mistakes in Marital 8 (15)
  Therapy
  Dispelling Myths About What Predicts Divorce 23 (3)
  ``Home Away From Home'': Creating a Marital 26 (5)
  Laboratory
  Repair and the Core Triad of Balance 31 (56)
  Balance in Marriage 31 (6)
  The Core Triad of Balance: Interactive 37 (31)
  Behavior
  The Core Triad of Balance: Perception 68 (6)
  The Core Triad of Balance: Physiology 74 (11)
  Summary 85 (2)
  The Sound Marital House: A Theory of Marriage 87 (24)
  Three Types of Stable, Happy Couples 88 (8)
  Perpetual Problems in Stable Marriages 96 (9)
  The Sound Marital House 105(6)
  Part II ASSESSMENT 111(66)
  The Assessment of Marriage 113(48)
  What I Want to Know When a Couple Comes in 114(5)
  for Treatment
  Addressing the Seven Questions 119(9)
  The Assessment of Physical Health 128(1)
  When Is Marital Therapy Contraindicated? 128(1)
  Case Example of Assessment Concepts: Murphy 129(4)
  and Rose
  The Case of George and Emma 133(28)
  The Disasters and Masters of Marriage 161(16)
  Love Maps 161(1)
  Fondness and Admiration System 162(1)
  Turning Toward Versus Turning Away 163(1)
  Sentiment Override 164(1)
  The Regulation of Conflict: Perpetual 165(3)
  Problems
  The Regulation of Conflict: Solvable 168(2)
  Problems
  Honoring Dreams 170(3)
  Creating Shared Meaning 173(4)
  Part III INTERVENTION 177(155)
  Assumptions and Intervention Overview 179(22)
  My Assumptions 179(6)
  The Modular Approach to Intervention 185(9)
  Intervention Overview 194(1)
  Menu Model of the Gottman Marriage Clinic 195(4)
  Specific Interventions, Therapeutic 199(2)
  Moments, and Marital Walnuts
  Enhancing the Marital Friendship 201(17)
  The Failed Bid 201(1)
  Goal: Couple Will Be Able to Process Their 202(1)
  Own Interaction and Make It Better
  The Interventions and Their Design 202(16)
  Solving What Is Solvable 218(16)
  Setting Up the Conflict Discussions 218(2)
  Resolving Problems That Can Be Resolved: 220(14)
  The Five Skills
  Living with the Inevitable 234(26)
  Establishing a Dialogue with Perpetual 234(18)
  Problems
  Dreams Within Conflict Case 252(8)
  Life Dreams and Shared Meanings 260(6)
  Case Example 263(3)
  Resistance to Change 266(15)
  Internal Working Models and the Sound 266(13)
  Marital House
  Other Sources of Resistance 279(2)
  Avoiding Relapse 281(11)
  The Failed Marital Argument 281(7)
  Build in Rituals of Emotional Connection 288(4)
  Pulling It All Together: Working as a Team 292(15)
  and Terminating Therapy
  Pulling It All Together 293(2)
  The Marital Poop Detector: Resetting the 295(5)
  Negativity Threshold
  More Intense and Rapid Early Treatment 300(4)
  Combined with Fading
  The Magic Five Hours a Week 304(1)
  When to Terminate Therapy: Unsuccessful 304(2)
  Cases
  In All Cases Expect Relapse: Follow-up 306(1)
  Sessions
  Emotion and Meta-emotion 307(15)
  A Case of Meta-emotion Mismatch 309(6)
  Other Sources of Mismatches: Emotion 315(7)
  Metaphors
  Buffering Children from Marital Conflict 322(10)
  Emotion-Dismissing vs. Emotion-Coaching 322(3)
  Parents
  The Contribution of Haim Ginott 325(4)
  Training Parents to Be Emotion-Coaching 329(3)
  Afterword 332(3)
  Appendices 335(88)
  References 423(20)
  Index 443
  

기본정보

ISBN	9780393702828 ( 0393702820 )
발행(출시)일자	1999년 08월 17일
쪽수	480쪽
크기	165 * 248 * 39 mm / 916 g
총권수	1권
언어	영어