How to Not Die Alone

The Surprising Science That Will Help You Find Love

Ury, Logan 저자(글)

Simon & Schuster/Paula Wiseman Books · 2022년 02월 01일

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A “must-read” (The Washington Post) funny and practical guide to help you find, build, and keep the relationship of your dreams.

Have you ever looked around and wondered, “Why has everyone found love except me?” You’re not the only one. Great relationships don’t just appear in our lives—they’re the culmination of a series of decisions, including whom to date, how to end it with the wrong person, and when to commit to the right one. But our brains often get in the way. We make poor decisions, which thwart us on our quest to find lasting love.

Drawing from years of research, behavioral scientist turned dating coach Logan Ury reveals the hidden forces that cause those mistakes. But awareness on its own doesn’t lead to results. You have to actually change your behavior. Ury shows you how.

This “simple-to-use guide” (Lori Gottlieb, New York Times bestselling author of Maybe You Should Talk to Someone) focuses on a different decision in each chapter, incorporating insights from behavioral science, original research, and real-life stories. You’ll learn:
-What’s holding you back in dating (and how to break the pattern)
-What really matters in a long-term partner (and what really doesn’t)
-How to overcome the perils of online dating (and make the apps work for you)
-How to meet more people in real life (while doing activities you love)
-How to make dates fun again (so they stop feeling like job interviews)
-Why “the spark” is a myth (but you’ll find love anyway)

This “data-driven” (Time), step-by-step guide to relationships, complete with hands-on exercises, is designed to transform your life. How to Not Die Alone will help you find, build, and keep the relationship of your dreams.

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저자(글) Ury, Logan

행동 과학자에서 데이팅 코치로 변신한, 여러 나라에 알려진 연애 전문가다. 현재는 데이트앱 힌지Hinge의 연애학 디렉터로 재직하며 사람들이 인연을 찾을 수 있도록 돕는 리서치 팀을 이끌고 있다. 그녀는 하버드대학교에서 심리학을 전공한 뒤 구글에서 행동 과학팀 비합리적 실험실the Irrational Lab을 운영했고, 인기 인터뷰 시리즈 〈톡스 앳 구글: 모던 로맨스Talks at Google: Modern Romance〉를 만들었다. 현재 테드 레지던트이기도 하다. 남편 스콧과 함께 샌프란시스코 베이 에어리어에 살고 있다. 더 많은 정보는 loganury.com이나 @loganury 팔로우로 얻을 수 있다.

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Chapter 1: Why Dating Is Harder Now Than Ever Before

KEY TAKEAWAYS
Dating is harder now than ever before. And you can tell your mom I said that.
Here’s why:
We define our own identities, unlike our ancestors, whose lives were defined by their communities.
We have thousands of options at our fingertips, which causes us to question our decisions.
We’re uncomfortable making big decisions when we can’t research our way to the right answer.
Social media leads us to believe that everyone else is in healthier, happier relationships than we are.
Far too few of us have good relationship role models.
There are far more models for dating and long-term relationships.
We’re bombarded with messaging that we need to get this decision “right”—and that a right answer exists at all.
But there’s hope. Using insights from behavioral science, we can take control of our love lives.

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“Why have you not found love? Logan Ury’s How to Not Die Alone speaks to truths that your friends won’t tell you. With a unique voice that offers clarity, action, and results, Ury’s book promises to be a definitive guide for a generation navigating the murky waters of modern love.” -- ESTHER PEREL, bestselling author of Mating in Captivity and The State of Affairs and host of the podcast “Where Should We Begin?”

“In How to Not Die Alone, dating coach Logan Ury compiles the research on what trips people up when looking for love and lays it all out in a simple-to-use guide. If you need a perspective shift, this is a book you’ll want to keep on hand as you navigate the modern dating terrain.” -- LORI GOTTLIEB, New York Times bestselling author of Maybe You Should Talk to Someone

“How to Not Die Alone is a must-read for millennials navigating any stage of their relationship. The advice is clear, researched-based, and actually easy to follow. It’s the perfect book for anyone who wants to up their dating game.” -- JORDANA ABRAHAM, co-founder of Betches Media and host of the podcast “U Up?”

“This book wisely reminds us that finding and holding on to love is not a mysterious divinely apportioned gift, it’s a skill that can be taught and learnt by us all. Past failure does not have to be any indicator of future success—with this compelling book in hand.” -- ALAIN DE BOTTON, author of The Course of Love

“This is an eye-opening book. Based on the best that social science has to offer, and written in an easy-to-understand style, full of useful exercises and checklists, Logan Ury has provided a guide that will help you avoid many of the traps people face in finding and keeping romantic relationships in today’s world. And as a bonus, reading this book will surely help you make other big decisions in life that have nothing to do with romance.” -- BARRY SCHWARTZ, Visiting Professor at the Haas School of Business, U.C. Berkeley, and author of The Paradox of Choice

“Ury has given all of us a host of excellent suggestions (and scientific information) on how to find, make, build and sustain a romantic, sexy and successful partnership.” -- HELEN FISHER, author of Anatomy of Love and Senior Research Fellow at The Kinsey Institute

“Insightful and delightful, How to Not Die Alone is a ‘must read’ for hopeless and hopeful romantics alike—and for anyone who still believes that true love is possible.” -- DANIEL GILBERT, Edgar Pierce Professor of Psychology at Harvard University and New York Times bestselling author of Stumbling on Happiness

"Logan Ury's practical, no-nonsense approach to dating is a masterclass in behavioral science. It's also warm, funny, and full of heart. How Not to Die Alone is an essential guide to debunking the myths of modern romance and finding a relationship that's truly worth investing in." -- MANDY LEN CATRON, author of How to Fall in Love with Anyone: A Memoir in Essays

"Tired of seeing all your friends coupled up around you? Dive into How to Not Die Alone, the debut title from behavioral scientist Logan Ury. While you don't need someone to complete you, she'll provide some insight and tips on how to find a partner if you're looking." -- Popsugar

"Ury, who is the Director of Relationship Science at Hinge, breaks down what makes a relationship work and why in her data-driven guide, which blends research with real-life stories. The book covers everything from tips on how to navigate online dating to what you should look for in a long-term partner." ― Time

"A must-read book on meeting your future partner." ― The Washington Post

기본정보

ISBN	9781982120634 ( 1982120630 )
발행(출시)일자	2022년 02월 01일
쪽수	352쪽
크기	140 * 213 * 22 mm / 272 g
총권수	1권
언어	영어

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